Trust is the foundational building block of every relationship. Although it sounds simple, trust can be one of the most difficult things to cultivate. It is a personal core value that requires constant attention and effort. It’s not earned through grand promises, rather, simple and small actions over time. The Cambridge Dictionary defines this challenging skill as:to have confidence in something, or to believe in someone.
Let’s take a look at how this powerful connection of trust is built in a healthy relationship.
Establish Boundaries
Boundaries are therules, goals, and expectations you have in the relationship. They can only be set and maintained by you. In every healthy relationship they are clearly defined and communicated.
Be Reliable
Do what you say, say what you do. Keep your word and your commitments. Only make promises you can keep! This keeps life simple.
Be Accountable
Taking responsibility for your actions in the relationship is a must! If you have made a mistake, acknowledge it, own it and apologize for it.
Effective Communication
It is a two-way dialogue to express thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Communication must honest and transparent.
Demonstrate Honesty
Always be honest and take the high road. Beware of inclusiveness. Leaving out parts of a story is lying by omission, and it is the same as being deliberately dishonest.
Acceptance (Non-Judgement)
This means operating with non-judgement. Accepting the person for who they are and not letting your own biases get in the way.
Be Congruent
This means being in agreement or harmony with each other values. It is saying and doing what you believe in without unexpected outcomes.
Show Vulnerability
Brené Brown, the author in Rising Strong, defines vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. Everything that brings meaning to our life is through being vulnerable.
Trust is fostered and developed gradually over time, moment by moment. It is an essential element in every relationship both personally and professionally. When the foundation is built, the feelings of connection, synergy, respect, joy and security will resonate exuding positivity to make a healthy long-lasting relationship.
“Trust is a conscious decision you make to be open, vulnerable and transparent while engaging in a relationship worthy of your partnership. Through small moments, driven by the consistent delivery of honesty, reliability and accountability, trust is earned.” Robin Bush